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Welcome to another blog post from me. I thought October was moving slow until I looked at the date today. Halloween is coming by fast! I mentioned that we don't celebrate Halloween where I'm from, but I can imagine how exciting it must be for everyone who does. On that note, I look forward to seeing your outfits! Today I want to talk about some of the easiest and effective rules of beauty.

I've had my fair share of 'Oops' moments when it comes to the the beauty rules. I've done so many things wrong before in that category. After some observation, learning and putting some of these rules to the test, I think it's time to share 5 of the easy rules I apply when it comes to beauty:

1. Read Product Instructions
To avoid regret and making avoidable and possible costly mistakes, I read the instructions I find on all products I get. You need to know what to apply first and why. There's a reason why a primer is applied before the foundation, and why we tone before putting on cream.

2. Wash Your Face Before Bed
Like a person breathes, our skin needs to breathe. Even when a makeup product (mostly foundation) states that it is lightweight, it still carries some weight and can clog the pores. Clogged pores prevent the face from breathing well on its own and can end up causing your skin to break out. For me makeup can feel so heavy on my face after a few hours even when it's lightweight, is it just me?

Whether I go out at night and come back in the morning, tired or not, I rid of the makeup. I feel like this is the most spoken about rule.

3. Put On Some Sunscreen
Growing up I didnt know much about sunscreen honestly. I knew it existed and it was to protect the skin from the UV rays but I never took it as a serious thing to own. For years I didn't bother to buy myself one. I've know for a long time what the sun can do so I tried to keep away from it when I could but I know it wasn't good enough. The sun can cause some problems to the skin including some rash.

Now I know not to look down on the importance of sunscreen, especially the SP50 sunscreen. Anything less is okay but I prefer SP50. I like the sunscreen I can apply anywhere on my body. As costly as sunscreen is, I feel like it's worth having.

4. Do Not Pick At Pimples
In the past my skin broke out a lot, I hated it, but I loved myself with all the imperfections. I think I hated the scars more but I couldn't stop myself from picking at the pimples. My skin still breaks out, but a lot less now and I barely take a pick - it helps!

In my opinion, taking care of the pimples is way less stressful than taking care of the scars. Scars may take their time to disappear, especially old ones. I still have some scars that haven't went away yet. It's work in progress.

I should also add that it helps to avoid touching your skin even if it's not to pick at pimples. I feel like we're constantly doing things with your hands that don't need to get to our faces, those things may bring unnecessary skin problems. Being mindful about what you're doing to your face is good.

5. Eat Well
I can't bring myself to follow any type of diet. 
If you're doing it for health reasons, please keep at it and take good care of yourself. If you are a person who goes on a diet for other reasons I don't mean to take that away from you and if it works for you then great. I believe I should be able eat pizza, chips (fries), banana, cucumber, burger, tomato an other things I like.

Going on a diet can be a little stressful thinking about all the things you'll be missing out on and stress isn't good for the skin anyway. I believe in eating anything I like as long as I eat well because I understand that too much of anything is bad.

If you want to eat less sugar or less oily food, you can; but I think it's unnecessary to put yourself under the pressure of a diet when you can simply eat well.

Thank you for reading up to this far. Was this post helpful to you? Please let me know in the comments about any of your beauty rules.

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I can't believe it's October already! I'd say I'm happy about Halloween but I'm South African and we don't celebrate Halloween. There's been a few people who have tried to take on the tradition but it just won't go through. I won't lie it seems fun.

September was very exciting! We celebrated one of the most important days of the year in the country - Heritage Day. Heritage Day is about embracing all the cultures and South Africa is rich in culture. With nine official languages, it means nine different cultures - cool, right?!

I did a few things in September which include taking some time away from social media every other day, redecorated my bedroom and I'm loving it! I've been redecorating for three months, I'd be disappointed if the decorations weren't impressive, haha. Another exciting thing I did in September was record some music. I haven't put out new music in a while and I miss radio interviews. Music makes me so happy. I can go on all day about my love for music so I'll leave it there.

I've mentioned before that my favourite season is Summer. Winter is great but I can't find any clothes I like for Winter so I root for Summer - I understand the importance of both seasons though. Summer is almost here and you know what that means: pool party, BBQ and being outside.

Whether you're currently in Spring or Winter, Summer's coming and there's no harm in being prepared. I'd like to share these four amazing (hand-picked by me) swimwear from Zaful. To make this whole post better, here's 19% off for swimwear valid for a limited time; use code: AFFSWIM. Here we go:

1. At the top of my list of favourite swimwear is this Women Tankinis Push Up Underwire High Rest Swimwear. What I love about this one is the high rest feature. It's almost like you're in the mood for a good swim but also looks like you are just out there being a model in your own world. It is so classy.

2. I love sunscreen, but sometimes I love to cover my arms from the sun completely. I want to do so and still look like I want to be out there and not at home. This mazing Three-Pieces Tie Dye Mesh Three Piece Loincloth Swimwear does the the job well. It is also very beautiful. I love the colours!

3  Wearing calm colours is one of my favourite things. This calm Ribbed Tie Slide Metallic Glitter String Bikini Swimwear looks very soothing! Besides, I like when a bikini looks like coffee.

4. Remember this? The good old one-piece swimming costume? They are still my favourite. Just because something is old doesn't mean it's boring. Ribbed Cinched Frilled One-Piece Swimwear is really cute! 

Go on and enjoy your summer. Put your feet in the pool, get an ice popsicle, lay in the shade, read a book and relax. What season are you currently in? Do you like any of these swimsuits?

Mornings kind of set the tone for the rest of the day; and I say kind of because how your morning starts shouldn't ruin how the rest of the day goes. A peaceful morning is good and necessary.

Every now and then we try to add some healthy habits to our routine and whether or not we see them through, we do it anyway. Truth be told we try our best to see good habits through, don't feel bad if every now and then you drop the ball. Here are 5 bad habits you should break and avoid:

1. Waking Up On Coffee
I can't stress it enough - caffeine is unhealthy. It may help you get off sleep a bit quicker, shake off some stiffness maybe or even give you some energy to get to work, but it's still not okay to wake up on a cup of coffee daily - at all.

If your body can barely wake and get going without caffeine, that may be a sign that the habit of coffee needs to change. You can replace coffee with a glass of water in the mornings.

2. Scrolling Through Social Media
We have come to see how negative social media has gotten in the past few years. We try to keep positive and follow positive accounts, but our timeliness still end up filled with ads and posts from things we don't want to see. Social media is a negative space and unfortunately we still need it to work and I can't tell you to give it up.

Scrolling through Social media first thing in the morning exposes you to negativity and potential stress you could potentially throughout your day. Try to replace scrolling through social media with something that makes you happy like journaling, meditation or opening up your windows for some fresh air.

3. Watching The News
I know for a fact that negative news and controversy make news first. I can't think of five good things that happened lately that was shared by the news channels. I don't like that that's the way things are going but it's how they are going and one can only hope to keep away every now and then, especially in the mornings.

Instead of watching the news in the mornings, you can listen to an empowering podcast episode. I like podcasts because they have a niche and you know that the one that focuses on empowerment will leave you feeling better not anxious. News cover both hard and soft topics and in my opinion, mornings aren't for hard news.

4. Skipping Breakfast
How many times have you heard the say "breakfast is the most important meal of the day"? I have lost count. The character James in To All The Boys I've Loved Before said it best: "just because something is popular doesn't mean it's lame. Some things are popular because they're cool." That's how I'd describe the importance of never skipping on breakfast.

If you're fortunate enough to have food for breakfast at home, try not to miss it. If you can donate to those who don't have any, please do. Being kind will never not be good.

5. Having No Plan
Planning your day is like having a routine. Waking up to go to work is part of a routine, whether we see it that way or not. If you work from home your routine may be a little more complicated even. You may be tempted to do some house chores or focus on other things that aren't work.

Plan your day, make time for your work, chores and your to-do list. Don't let one make the other suffer. Write down your plans for the day every morning, but don't put too much on your list.

Share with me some of the bad morning habits you do and how they have affected your morning life. Don't forget to pin this post.

Sometimes we're so busy living our lives and handling responsibilities that we can barely make time for important things like exercise. It has been said a thousand times before that workout is vital and I'd like to add onto that and say that it is very necessary.

Exercise doesn't mean getting a gym membership or joining a fitness group. You can workout at home with absolutely no equipment and still manage to reach reasonable goals. Before I go on, I'd like to share a few benefits of exercise:

Managing Weight
The reason I workout is to manage and maintain my weight - to keep healthy. If you workout solely to lose weight, you have to be careful not to mentally hurt yourself. No matter your weight, the goal should be keeping healthy first. There's nothing wrong with wanting to lose a few or several kilograms, but you have to be kind to your current self as you go through the process.

Mood Improvement
Sometimes during an exercise session I feel like I'm going to shout - it can be frustrating; however, the aftermath is always good. I'm always in a better mood after exercising. I don't know how exactly but I like it. I think it's because the blood flow improves and my brain is well oxygenated.

Improves Health
I think it is better to eat well than force a diet onto self which could potentially stress you out. If your health requires a specific diet for your specific reasons, please follow it. My tip for the ones who aren't on any diet for health reasons or any reason, work out and eat well.

How To Make Time For Workout When You Don't Have Any Time?
It's actually quite easy and I do this. I take 15-20 minutes before bathtime in the evenings to workout. To actually get into the mood of exercising, first I unplug and start randomly doing things that aren't work. I move around in the room or cleanup the workspace. You have to be careful not to get carried away and end up spending too much time cleaning. Working out at night helps get better sleep, too.

You can also do your exercises in the morning before you open your computer or take a shower. You can take the same amount of time - 15-20 minutes or more to break a sweat before you start your day.

Exercises To Do
I like to do some squats, sit-ups, lunges and plank. I also like adding running to nowhere. Haha. I pretend to be running, but I remain in the same place. I do this while taking deep breaths.

Did this help you Let? Let me know in the comments how you squeeze in exercise daily with a busy schedule.

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I am so happy to write this post, I'm screaming on the inside. I love gift idea posts because sometimes I run out of ideas myself and need some help. In this post, I'm sharing gift ideas of products I wouldn't mind receiving myself (some I already own). I handpicked these out specially for this post, so let's get right into them.

1. I like to have some order when it comes to my make up. Sponges get dirty really quickly and knowing that they touch on your face when you blend in your foundation or contour really makes me want to be careful even more! I'm suggesting this 4PCS Droplet Sponge Make Up Beauty Tool.

2. Owning a deep cleansing facial brush myself, I can honestly say that it definitely does the job! It leaves my skin feeling fresh and clean. I think about it making it into the skin pores where my fingers can't reach. It cleanses my skin from the inside out. I think this will make a great gift even to self.

3. I'm an undeniable fan of Vitamin C going onto my skin. Having suffered from acne from a young age during puberty and trying many products which didn't work out for me, I ended up getting myself Vitamin C products just to check out how they would treat my skin - it was love at first sight. My skin has significantly improved. Vitamin C products are my favourite and that is why I'm sharing this next product - Vitamin C and Niacinamide Brightening SILK Face Mask - Set of 4.

4. Being an owner of a face massage roller myself, I'm happy to share this Simple Jade Face Massage Roller. These improve blood flow and reduce puffiness. I also like that they help the skin absorb products easily.

5. I love a good sale, so I had to share this: A MelodySusie 13th anniversary, up to 50% off now! This sale is valid for a limited time and I think you'll love what they have to offer. I'd like to leave this gift idea open so everyone can get anything they love from this sale. You'll find nail drills, nail accessories, lamp, bits and more.

Please let me know in the comments if any of these are something you can get for yourself, your sister or friend. If you'd like to make a purchase, click on any of the pictures. Thanks for your support!

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Stress is one of the worst things a human being can experience. Stress can cause emotional, mental and even physical tension. Mariam Webster website defines stress as "constraining force or influence: such as: a force exerted when one body or body part presses on, pulls on, pushes against, or tends to compress or twist another body or body part." I mean, who wants to feel that way?

Causes of Stress
Let's talk about the causes of stress. Stress can be caused or triggered by different things; for example, a fast-paced environment, overwhelming workload, diet, overthinking, lifestyle and many other things. I've experienced stress before, maybe you have too.

Managing Stress
Knowing how to manage your stress can make significant difference in how far stress can take you. Let's take a look on how you can manage your stress:

Let Go of The Need To Control
Some things are out of our control and that's a fact. You can't control how people act or react and you can't control what happens around you, but, you can however choose or control how you act or react to those things. The constant need to control any and everything is simply not practical.

Change of Scenery
Sometimes what you need to manage your stress is to change the environment you're in. Take a step back, take some deep breaths, go for a walk, take a break, move to the next room or move away (get a different job, move to a different city, etc).

Find Help
I've been around people who smoke their way through stress. Smoking can cause lung cancer and heart diseases. Ditch the need to smoke and try the Core immunity boost kit with lung health and nicosolve formula. This is a 100% natural kit that comes with a 90-day money back guarantee. This kit contains nicosolve and Aerosolve for lung rejuvenation and smoking cessation.

It helps to deal with stress head-on and this stress kit may help - Freedom Kit with STRease FormulaAccording to Biogetica, it is a basic combination of the Ayurvedic herbs, nutraceuticals and homeopathic products traditionally used for stress.

Try not to drown your stress in alcohol. Excessive consumption of alcohol can cause kidney failure and alcohol poisoning among other things. According to Biogetica, heavy drinkers put on a herb extract for 7 days showed significant reduction in alcohol consumption. The urge to drink reduced and no notable side effects were observed. Get the Freedom Kit With Detox Formula. You can choose the 80-day supply or the 40-day supply.

Speak Out
On different occasions, I have come to realise that some things are only worse in my mind. When I explain stuff to someone, not only do I get to understand better what's really going on, I get a fresh mind that's going to look at the situation objectively and show me a perspective I was probably missing.

Listen To Your Body
Our bodies talk to us daily, that's how we know that we're thirsty or hungry. When stress creeps in, your body tells you that. Tension forms, your body may start to shake and your heart and mind may start racing. When the stress starts crawling in, do something about it next time.

Plan For The Day/Week
Having some sort of order in your day, week or month can bring comfort and sense of control. However, it's important to understand that things don't always go as planned, it's okay to plan anyway. Remember, sense of control and having control are two very different things.

You have know and understand the triggers or causes of your stress; most importantly, know how to manage your stress without picking up bad habits. Have this post helped you in anyway? Please let me know in the comments how you manage your stress.

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If you've been here before you're probably wondering what's up with the new name? Believe me when I say it was worth it. The name defines what this blog stands for. This blog is made up of so many elements that contribute to happiness and I want to keep it that way. I want to use my voice through this blog to share positivity, tips and kindness. I want to build the confidence of those who are in doubt of the good things and give a little good hope where there's little to none, because I really think good people deserve to be happy too. If you're new here - welcome to my happy place.

I've been away for a while; most of it has to do with the fact that I was busy rebranding - finding meaning for this blog and realising that this place actually means something to me. It isn't something I just do.

Today's Saturday and I thought 'girl, you've been away for a while, you miss sharing something so do it,' so here I am. I love Saturdays, and I think a lot of you do too. It just has this great feeling to it and the atmosphere is bliss! The weekend is pretty exciting but we know Monday's coming! What if Monday didn't have to be so blue? These are seven tips on how to make the most of your weekend:

It's helps to do laundry on a Friday evening or in the day if you're not doing much during the day. This takes away some stress of it throughout the weekend. Once you do your laundry, you can make time for other things that aren't necessarily chores. If you can, be sure to fold it and put it back where it's supposed to be when you're done. Laundry is a weight you don't really want to carry through the weekend.
Alone Time
Whether is on Friday night after laundry and a quick shower or bath, Sunday or somewhere in-between, you have to make some time for you. You can use this time to catch up on reading, watching an episode or two of your favourite TV drama or series, take a walk, bake, cook your favourite meal, regroup or focus on a hobby. Do not make the mistake of not making some time for you on a weekend. If you have a baby like me, see if a sibling can't look after them for an hour or two or put them to bed a little early so you can have some time to yourself.

Make Time For The People You Care About
I am a little introverted but every now and then I just want to talk to someone; whether it's a friend or a loved one. Even if you give yourself an hour or a few to get out there and be with the people you care about, it will mean so much to them and help you. I am no mental expert or doctor but being alone all the time can't be healthy for your mental wellbeing. It helps to talk stuff out and to laugh out and have a good time with someone.

Keep Your Promises
Did you make plans with someone the week before or some months before? You got to keep those promises. If you don't like showing up to places, maybe don't agree to going in the first place. Haha, I know.

A Weekend Is Your Treat
Treat is as such. Sit on your front porch with a glass of wine or water and take in some fresh air. Slow down and appreciate the moment.

Journaling is a form of therapy. You can grab your journal or notebook, write down your thoughts, feelings, plans, anything really! Your journal is like a friend who always listens. Add cute stickers to your journal like these Little Daisy Sun Flower Doodle Stickers from lifescraft. You can enjoy 10% off for anything with code: AFF10 on their website too!

Prep For Monday on A Sunday
Don't overwork yourself on a Sunday because you'll need the energy for Monday. Prepare but don't overwork yourself or Monday may be blue.

Share with me in the comments how you usually spend your weekends and let me know if this has added something positive to how you'll be spending your weekends. 


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