4 Ways You Can Practice Self-Compassion

For some people, self-compassion comes naturally while for others it is something they have to learn. I fall under the category of those who had to learn it.

Self-compassion, simply put, means giving yourself the same care you give to others. We open ourselves so much to and for others but can't open up ourselves for ourselves. It's a little confusing but it happens. After years of beating myself up over a countless number of things, this is how I now practice self-compassion and how you can too:

Be More Understanding

My usual response to me messing up wasn't always a kind one; I didn't like how I spoke to myself after making a mistake. But now I do this: I think to myself "would I be so upset or angry if someone I cared about did the exact same thing to me?" My answer is usually no. So I take the understanding I give to others and give it to myself.

Practice Acts Of Kindness

I make it my mission to practice at least one act of kindness towards myself every day. Whether it's giving myself a random compliment or allowing myself to receive compliments from others when they come instead brushing them off or laughing them off. Somedays I bake for myself and enjoy my own cookies, and other days I sit and listen to own self as I'd listen to someone talking to me. I listen attentively and allow myself to tackle what could be bothering me. I discuss problems with myself and try to find solutions for myself. I do this passionately.

Forgive Yourself

Sometimes we make ourselves feel horrible, guilty or bad for our own mistakes. We forget about the times when others did something wrong and we forgave them. Instead of telling yourself words like "what is wrong with you? Why do you keep messing up?" Try telling yourself that mistakes are okay and that eventually you'll learn. Also, would you rather be right all the time or just be happy? I ask because sometimes forgiving yourself looks like just letting go of the need to be right or precise and just focusing on being happy.

Give Yourself Time

It may take a while to get to a place where showing compassion to yourself comes naturally or at least becomes normal to you. Until then, teach it to yourself. Tell yourself that if you can show it to others you can show it to yourself.

The truth is we can't help others if we can't help ourselves. If we keep showing up for other people while neglecting ourselves, eventually we'll grow tired. You deserve the same kindness you give to others. 

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