4 Ways You Can Practice Self-Compassion



For some people, self-compassion comes naturally while for others it is something they have to learn. I fall under the category of those who had to learn it.

Self-compassion, simply put, means giving yourself the same care you give to others. We open ourselves so much to and for others but can't open up ourselves for ourselves. It's a little confusing but it happens. After years of beating myself up over a countless number of things, this is how I now practice self-compassion and how you can too:

Be More Understanding
My usual response to me messing up wasn't always a kind one; I didn't like how I spoke to myself after making a mistake. But now I do this: I think to myself "would I be so upset or angry if someone I cared about did the exact same thing to me?" My answer is usually no. So I take the understanding I give to others and give it to myself.

Practice Acts Of Kindness
I make it my mission to practice at least one act of kindness towards myself every day. Whether it's giving myself a random compliment or allowing myself to receive compliments from others when they come instead brushing them off or laughing them off. Somedays I bake for myself and enjoy my own cookies, and other days I sit and listen to own self as I'd listen to someone talking to me. I listen attentively and allow myself to tackle what could be bothering me. I discuss problems with myself and try to find solutions for myself. I do this passionately.




Forgive Yourself
Sometimes we make ourselves feel horrible, guilty or bad for our own mistakes. We forget about the times when others did something wrong and we forgave them. Instead of telling yourself words like "what is wrong with you? Why do you keep messing up?" Try telling yourself that mistakes are okay and that eventually you'll learn. Also, would you rather be right all the time or just be happy? I ask because sometimes forgiving yourself looks like just letting go of the need to be right or precise and just focusing on being happy.

Give Yourself Time
It may take a while to get to a place where showing compassion to yourself comes naturally or at least becomes normal to you. Until then, teach it to yourself. Tell yourself that if you can show it to others you can show it to yourself.

The truth is we can't help others if we can't help ourselves. If we keep showing up for other people while neglecting ourselves, eventually we'll grow tired. You deserve the same kindness you give to others. 

Was this post helpful? Do you practice self-compassion? How?

24 comments

  1. I really need practice this more, I always preach that you have to take care of yourself first then others as if you aren’t doing that you can’t help anyone but always fail at following my own advice. Really do need to give myself credit more

    Soffy / https://alittlecupofus.com/

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    1. I'm so happy to hear you say this. You need to do that. Take care of yourself first and more. Thanks for dropping by :)

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  2. So many great tips here! I like how you practice kindness towards yourself by baking cookies. It reminds me to be more gentle with myself too. Thank you for sharing x

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    1. It's always good to be gentle with yourself. Thanks for reading and leaving me a comment x

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  3. Love this post. Self care I'm good at. Self compassion, not so much. I need to do more acts of kindness to myself I think.

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    1. Aw! 'Practice makes progress', so start and keep at it. Thanks for dropping by :)

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  4. I love this Jeannie, great tips.

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  5. Great post. After reading this post, I need to practice self compassion more. Thank you for sharing.

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  6. Fab tips! This is something I really struggle with too so this was such a helpful post. I love the idea of asking yourself if you'd react the same way if a loved one did the same thing, and the idea of daily acts of kindness! Thank you so much for sharing x

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    1. Thank you so much for dropping by. Acts of kindness towards yourself are vital in practicing self-compassion. Thanks for your comment :)

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  7. I need to practice self-compassion on myself more often, these are great ways to help me do that x

    Lucy Mary

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    1. Practicing self-compassion is very necessary. Thanks for your comment x

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  8. You've shared some really great points here; I am definitely working on self-compassion so I needed this. Thanks for sharing!

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  9. I need to be kinder to myself and give myself more grace, this is something that I am working on. Thank you for sharing!

    Lauren - bournemouthgirl

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    1. You just got to be patient with yourself. Thanks for your comment, Lauren :)

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  10. I like to enjoy a nice hot lemon tea with honey and sip it without multi-tasking. I definitely have room for improvement in this area, though.

    Crystal | www.amazingbaby.app

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    1. The Important thing is you want to do right by you and each day you do your best. Thanks for your comment! :)

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  11. I love this post! I'm trying to practice being nicer to myself and these are some great ideas x

    mia // https://miasdiyprojects.com/

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  12. These are such great ways to practice self-compassion. Being more understanding and giving yourself time have been especially helpful in my own journey. Thank you so much for sharing and for the reminder that we deserve the same kindness we give to others!

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    1. It's really good to hear that you've bee understanding and and giving yourself time. Thank you for stopping by :)

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